What happened this time? Did he watch the latest episode of Westworld without you? Did she forget the both of you were supposed to have dinner with your parents this weekend?
Relationships take work, and quarrels between couples every now and then are inevitable. But if you and your significant other are fighting every other day over really insignificant things, it’s time to step back and reevaluate yourself and your relationship.
During tensed conversations, all it takes is an eye-roll or a bitchy remark to elevate a silly argument into a full-blown fight. If this happens often, it’s emotionally draining and toxic for the both of you. The next time you’re unhappy with your partner over something, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Will this matter to me in a year?”.
Taking a moment to consider this will make you less likely to turn something benign into a heated argument. This will help you gain some perspective when you’re mad as hell, and prevent the situation from escalating into an emotionally charged fight that could have been avoided in the first place. You know very well that when you’re pissed off, you tend to say things that you don’t mean (and won’t be able to take back). It will also make you more likely to forgive your partner after a silly quarrel.
If it is imperative that you express your unhappiness with your partner, remember not to jump to conclusions. Start off slow, and respectfully voice your concerns, which will most likely result in them explaining their point of view or apologizing if they realize they’ve made a mistake. When you’re displeased with your partner, instead of immediately attacking their character (whether directly or passive-aggressively), try your best to see the other side of the argument and quiet your insecurities. Look at your relationship as the both of you are teammates and should work together to solve any problems that arise as opposed to wanting to be on the “winning” side of every argument.